We are each guilty of doing so in out own way. However, I wonder if Calvinists have ever stopped to reflect how they have possibly pushed people further away from God through their call to volitional and intellectual passivity in regards to the claims of salvation and even more importantly by depicting God as an arbitrary thug hardly anyone in their right mind would want to love anyway. It is one thing for a Holy God to provide sinners with only one path to eternal life with Him. However, this soteriology posits a deity so callous that He deliberately creates individuals for the sole purpose of tossing into Hell and then blame them for it.